The Unsaid · Emotional Truth Diaries

36 questions to grow closer

Three rounds, from light to intimate. About 45 minutes for two people who want to know each other better, whether you met yesterday or ten years ago.

36 questions about 45 minutes for two

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How to use it

Take turns: one reads the question, both answer.
Go in order: the questions get more personal on purpose.
Answer honestly, but you can always pass.
At the end: four minutes of looking into each other's eyes, in silence.

The format is inspired by the research of psychologist Arthur Aron and colleagues (1997) on how gradual, mutual openness helps people feel close. The questions here are our own, written for Emotional Truth Diaries. We don't promise you'll fall in love, only that you'll get closer.

Part I · A little closer

Light questions to warm up.

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2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
10
11
12

Part II · Deeper

About values, mistakes and what matters.

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14
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18
19
20
21
22
23
24

Part III · Closest

Slower. Softer. More honest.

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26
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29
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31
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33
34
35
36

After question 36 you can simply sit together a little longer.

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